A Nerd’s Guide To Dating

This is a guide that no human being has seen before. It is a powerful guide that I have followed for many years, one that I have developed to help guide my actions. This is my guide to dating. The problem with a lot of guys, is that they are clueless with girls. They do certain things that boggle the mind, and are surprised when they get rejected!

The problem with dating, is that there is just so much uncertainty, its not a function, where if you are guranteed an exact answer, when you solve for x. Although there’s no exact answer, there’s still numbers to be manipulated, and if you do it well enough, you get the girl.

Lets suppose there exists a girl x who is a complete stranger. The probablity of you and her being in a relationship at that point in time can be defined as p(x,t), a function of girl and time. Since she’s a stranger who you don’t know (t = 0), the probability is actually pretty low, like around 0%-10%. The trick is to raise this probability, through various events and interations, until you get to around 50%-99% (you are never certain), at which point you guys become a couple (p(x,t) = 100%). A few rules:

1. As time increases, probability decreases.
2. Probability will increase/decrease depending on the action/event.

Let me illustrate the concept for you:

So think of it almost like a reward system. Events occur, in which you have the opportunity to raise your “relationship probability”. The reason for this, is because you want the girls to feel a certain way about. Its all about the chase guys. If you apply this model to real-life scenarios, it actually makes sense:

Guy Confesses to Girl His Feelings Out of the Blue
In this situation, the guy is practically a stranger to a girl, so when he professes his feelings to her, the probability of a relationship will be relatively low.  I see this happening all the time. Hurts me everytime, watching as the guy’s heart gets wrenched in a symphony of rejection.

Guy Picks Up Girl in a Club
They start off as strangers, but rapid escalation occurs. Starts off with the “conversation phase”, and they’re already hanging out, so if the conversation is successful, the probability is already relatively higher, around 45%-50%. Then as the night progresses, they get close and closer, until the probability is around 50%-55%. I guess at this point, it will depend on the morality of the girl and her level of drunkenness. So at the end of the night, she decides to give him a shot. Personally, I do not like this method, because of the escalation factor. You don’t really “know” the girl.

Guy Dates Girl Who Has Feelings For Someone Else
The probability can apply to the competition too. Unfortunately, the competition’s probability is usually higher then yours. That’s why you must raise your own probability to be higher then the competition.

Guy is Stuck in the Friend Zone
So you’re not strangers, you’re friends. But you’re not able to make it mean something more. The unfortunate thing about the friend-zone, is that the first rule of my concept applies: As time increases, the probability decreases. So the longer you stay just “friends”, the more she thinks of you as a friend, which decreases your chances.

Guy Flirts A LOT
Through flirting, feelings may develop. This is the case, where you raise the probability rate ABOVE 50%, and higher, so that when you ask a girl out on a date, you get to start off higher (65%-70%?), which dramatically increases the probability of relationship.

Guy Breaks Free of the Friend Zone
Although your chances decrease by staying in the friend zone for a long time, as the theory states, you can improve your probability through events and actions. To get out of the friend zone, you must make your intention known (but perhaps not too blunt, or risk a big drop off). Hang out. Talk. Be an awesome guy. Treat it almost like a “beta phase” of a product, where you are the product. Show her what kind of boyfriend you can be, and through these interactions, your probability of success will increase.

Guy Follows Anton’s Guide and Asks Her Out
You will ALWAYS stay in the fail zone, until you make that move and ask her out. At which point, you are automatically at 50%. If you ask a girl out, and she says yes, chances are she’s interested. Not fully interested, mind you, which is why the probability is only slightly over 50%, but at least its a start right?

It seems simple right? Events that increase your probability. But its this kinda mentality that’s helped me a great deal. The asking out part, was always scary for me, because I didn’t want a rejection. So I’d try to raise my probability by doing sweet things for the girl, and then when I got to around 75% certaintity, I’d make my move.

The system is not perfect. Each action you do does not gurantee an increase in probability, because there’s many many other troublesome factors that presents itself:

• Personality
• Hygiene
• Social Class
• Society
• Compatibility
• Girl has boyfriend
• Not the right girl

Some of the factors, you can control, but more often then not you can’t. But if rejection strikes, just get up and try again. You would of leveled up through all the experience you’ve gained, which will help you next time.